One Is Never Too Old To X, Y, Or Z

what I do instead

Written By Lynn Dorman, Ph.D. | Happier, Healthier, Musings, Smarter | 0 Comments

It’s THAT time of the year — again [sigh]

My inbox and social media feeds are filled with mail/posts selling me on the advantages of:

planners
courses about planning
products on how to use AI to make my year “better” “great” “etc.”
health-related info on starting the year off the “right” way
making resolutions [personal and business]
and more…

Except for the AI which is sort of new this year — the posting and the emails are the same every December and January.

But last year some of it started back earlier in the Fall because everyone knows:

“I have to get your attention about January 2024 in the middle of the summer or early fall or else you won't buy my product.”

It’s fine if you do the above - and even better if making resolutions works for you…

I no longer make them.

I used to.

I’d read a lot of that “how to succeed” stuff, that “guru” stuff, that “my friends say this works” stuff, and would make a list of what I would accomplish in the upcoming year….

Then at some point during the year, I’d look at my resolution list and laugh [or cry] as so little of it ever got done! Or done with any degree of consistency.

So I stopped making New Year resolutions. It seemed to not be good for my mental health OR my productivity. My brain doesn't like lists!!

I've discovered that I am not alone. Many, if not most, people did not follow theirs either.

Especially these:

"I am going to exercise every day” resolution or “I am going to lose X pounds this year” or “I am going to lose 5 pounds a month.”

And work-related resolutions?

The “I will write a post a day,” or “I will write a book before Summer,” or I will do X by Y time frame.

Ditto the very popular “I will be making $XXX a month by the end of March or April” type of resolution.

These resolutions generally do not work.

Why? We tend to set impossible resolutions or standards for ourselves. They are often more wishful thinking than actual planned-out behaviors. Not sticking to these resolutions may make us feel like failures so early in the new year, and yes, the ad people play into this guilt.

Watch ads early in the year and note those aimed at making us feel guilt and shame over NOT keeping resolutions. They may not be direct, but they are aimed at guilt making!!

my insteads

With two major professional degrees and several accolades, I know I am not a failure.

I actually CAN and DO accomplish things - but I have ceased the resolution-type thinking and adopted a more casual approach to my life. It took some hard work on my part to re-think the business/life model that keeps telling us we “need” to make a yearly, monthly, daily plan… or else!

I choose "or else"

Opting for the “or else” works for me!

Every choice can be the “correct way!"

I let my mind wander!

I now enjoy late December/early January as we get an added minutes of daylight every afternoon.

I use this light/dark scenario to reflect, have fun, and think about my work - but not make any of this into resolutions,
to-do lists, or anything tightly scheduled!

I do a non-journal kind of journaling

I call it my mental meandering but it’s more like a brain dump. This is one activity I do most every day but without the “I must do it” kind of thinking, so I often don't do this. And that’s okay!

Apple has made this easier for me as they released a journal app and I have started using that app - but still not every day - I figure a few days a week [maybe] works for me.

Had a birthday back in January. "Some might say" that I am old or too old to be doing what I do. If you know me you know that I am now closer to 80 than I am to 70. And as is usual for many, after a birthday and a beginning of a year, I start thinking about past, present, and future. .

This year I decided I was making major changes!
Clearing out old patterns and creating new ones!

Age is NEVER a factor in these decisions!

I have trouble sticking with projects through to finishing. I also have problems with dark and light. I need sun. But I figured this is all workable. It's all changeable. And so I decided that at the tender age of "closer to 80" that I can make some major changes. If you followed any of my attempts at this from last year with videos and other things I did start on it and got going but I never did finish the major projects that I was working on.

This year feels different. I've changed a lot of my eating habits. I've also gotten myself back onto a full complement of the supplements that I have taken over the years. [More on that in a later post.] And I am doing daily affirmations.

I've also gotten back to doing yoga for at least 20 minutes every day and I bought a yoga trapeze so that I can hang upside down and safely stretch different body parts [including my back] - because there are many handles on the trapeze.

Caveat here. I would never recommend the yoga trapeze unless you already know how to protect your body while doing yoga, while stretching, and moving in general. You can get hurt doing yoga if you don't know what you're doing. If you like the idea of the trapeze, I'd suggest that you take some yoga classes first so that you know how to position your body in different stretches and movements so that you don't get hurt.

And no I haven't yet perfected the pose that one sees in the ad.

I'll be writing more about the different things the X, Y and Z over time but this is why I have not been posting much this year.

I've been busy working on me. Now it's time to share some of that with you.

Do you make resolutions? Do they work for you? Or if not - what do you do - if anything? Please comment below and thank you for reading.