We all have days where we are not as happy as we would like to be.

 Or we are very unhappy.

Sometimes we are bordering on feeling depressed or really crappy and just not in a good place. 

We want to be HAPPIER!!!

We know we have to leave that negativity, that negative space that we are living in, and do something more positive because that is better for us.. It’s better for our health, it’s better for the people around us, and we need to do something simple to help us leave that space. And leave it as quickly as possible.

I know from experience, personally and as a former therapist, that DOING SOMETHING is the hardest thing to do when we are trying to get out of that place when we are in it. 

There are lists of things that you are “supposed” to do “to feel better” but in talking with some friends is that the easiest thing to do – something that takes no effort or little effort, no money, and very little of our selves in it is to do something nice for somebody else.

What is the easiest and nicest thing to do? 

Just smile at the next person you see. 

And if that makes you feel happier, smile at the person after that. You don’t have to talk to them you just have to smile at them.

They will probably feel happier unless they walk away thinking who’s that idiot that smiled at me – and you might feel happier because you’ve actually moved your mouth muscles into a smile.

Try it!

It takes very little effort. It takes absolutely no money and it doesn’t require you doing anything other than moving the muscles around your mouth.

There are other things you can do to feel happier, but they take a bit more effort and those will be mentioned later and in the happiness course I am creating.

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For many people, trying to get happy, or trying to stay happy, is trying [and tiring.]

Especially now.

We live in a climate of negativity, unhappiness and high stress. It’s gotten worse in the past few years and even the research is showing that it’s taking a toll on people.

In the United States, people don’t take vacations. They’re afraid they will lose their job or be seen as replaceable if they take even a day or two off. 

We live in times where television news is filled with negativity: about politics, about trade, about world events, etc.  And that is unsettling for many. And it becomes cyclical.

More negativity leads to more negativity.

In many cities, the cost of rent is skyrocketing and the ability to buy your first time house or even maybe your second time house is almost out of the question. So people are faced with salaries that don’t rise much, rents that do food costs that do and other living expenses that keep rising. Wages do not keep going up like inflation does. All this leads to higher stress and less happiness. And as it has gotten worse over the past few years. 

It is getting harder for people to try and stay positive and happy in the face of this kind of environment.

But you can be happier. You can learn to be happy you can learn things to do to keep yourself feeling happy. To get yourself out of the doldrums if you are there by doing activities that make you happier.And if you are not yet in the doll drums some of these activities will keep you from getting there.

How do we do this?  I am compiling some information and putting together a course on the topic. as I work along doing things for the course I will be posting information here. The easiest way to keep track of what I’m doing is to sign up below for information about the course so that you will know what is going on.

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I hate ringing telephones!

When I was a kid, actually probably until well into my high school days, I loved talking on the phone to my friends. Then again telephones were relatively novel and they didn’t ring constantly. When they rang it was a person you knew who calling for someone in your household.

By the time I got to graduate school, phones began to ring a lot more often. We didn’t call them spam or scam calls at that at the time but my roommates and I just almost never answered our phone. We could let it ring and ring and ring and did not care. 

But over the years, I have had friends who have to answer telephones – they cannot stand to hear a phone ring without answering it. This even in the modern days of cell phones, caller ID, and with too many of your calls being of the spam scam variety-  they still answer..

I was the first of my friends to get one of those newfangled answering machines. It was the late 70s and it was one where the top lifted up and you put in 2 tapes. One tape was for your  or message and the other tape was for people to leave messages. It was expensive for those days and I remember going to Jordan Marsh in downtown Boston and paying approximately $250 for that machine. It lasted a long time, through a few moves, until it got zapped I think by some nearby lightning once and it became an a.m. radio station. 

That machine paid for it self the very first day. I set it up  after arriving home and then went about my business. Hours later I remembered I I had a machine. I went to my office and there were lights blinking. A message!  Inviting me to be a keynote speaker at an event! I called back said yes, and as I was going to paid more than the cost of the machine – from that point on it was a freebie.

Now, most of us carry our “answering machines” in our pockets. It’s actually a multi use computer that we can use to make phone calls. But if you are like many of us, phone calls are the leas used aspect. Even we elders text, use social media, etc. to connect and phone calls are becoming a rarer way to communicate.

And I can shut off the sound so I don’t hear it ring!! Ah – I love modern technology!! 

PSA – please try to not answer your phone all the time… 1) it’s rude and 2) it’s usually a scammer.

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