In Honor of Labor Day

what I do instead

Written By Lynn Dorman, Ph.D.  |  Musings  |  10 Comments

list of resolutions

It’s THAT time of the year — again [sigh]

My inbox and social media feeds are filled with mail/posts selling me on the advantages of:

  • planners
  • courses about planning
  • products on how to use AI to make my year “better” “great” “etc.”
  • health-related info on starting the year off the “right” way
  • making resolutions [personal and business]
  • and more…

Except for the AI which is sort of new this year — the posting and the emails are the same every December and January.

But last year some of it started back earlier in the Fall because everyone knows:

“I have to get your attention about January 2024 in the middle of the summer or early fall or else you won't buy my product.”

It’s fine if you do the above - and even better if making resolutions works for you…

I no longer make them.

I used to.

I’d read a lot of that “how to succeed” stuff, that “guru” stuff, that “my friends say this works” stuff, and would make a list of what I would accomplish in the upcoming year….

Then at some point during the year, I’d look at my resolution list and laugh [or cry] as so little of it ever got done! Or done with any degree of consistency.

So I stopped making New Year resolutions. It seemed to not be good for my mental health OR my productivity. My brain doesn't like lists!!

I've discovered that I am not alone. Many, if not most, people did not follow theirs either.

Especially these:

"I am going to exercise every day” resolution or “I am going to lose X pounds this year” or “I am going to lose 5 pounds a month.”


And work-related resolutions?

The “I will write a post a day,” or “I will write a book before Summer,” or I will do X by Y time frame.

Ditto the very popular “I will be making $XXX a month by the end of March or April” type of resolution.

These resolutions generally do not work.

Why? We tend to set impossible resolutions or standards for ourselves. They are often more wishful thinking than actual planned-out behaviors. Not sticking to these resolutions may make us feel like failures so early in the new year, and yes, the ad people play into this guilt.

Watch ads early in the year and note those aimed at making us feel guilt and shame over NOT keeping resolutions. They may not be direct, but they are aimed at guilt making!!

my insteads 

With two major professional degrees and several accolades, I know I am not a failure.

I actually CAN and DO accomplish things - but I have ceased the resolution-type thinking and adopted a more casual approach to my life. It took some hard work on my part to re-think the business/life model that keeps telling us we “need” to make a yearly, monthly, daily plan… or else!


I choose "or else"


Opting for the “or else” works for me! 

Every choice can be the “correct way!"


I let my mind wander!

I now enjoy late December/early January as we get an added minutes of daylight every afternoon. 

I use this light/dark scenario to reflect, have fun, and think about my work - but not make any of this into resolutions,
to-do lists, or anything tightly scheduled!


I do a non-journal kind of journaling

I call it my mental meandering but it’s more like a brain dump. This is one activity I do most every day but without the “I must do it” kind of thinking, so I often don't do this. And that’s okay!

Apple has made this easier for me as they released a journal app and I have started using that app - but still not every day - I figure a few days a week [maybe] works for me.

On Facebook this morning – I posted:

Seems I posted this last year [according to FB] but it's worth a repeat!

This is Labor Day weekend – take some time to think about what the Labor movement brought to all workers! Quaint ideas like living wages, overtime and 40 hour work weeks.

After reading and responding to some of the comments, I had this thought:

What if this coming Labor Day were to be our last one ever?

It’s not hard to imagine this scenario with all the newly-minted Republican governors trying to eliminate labor benefits – and with many R’s trying to eliminate unions in general.
 

Caveat: I have mixed feelings about Unions myself. I’ve never belonged to one but my father was a strong union person and I was the Staff Attorney for a major union in Washington, D.C. Working inside is like the adage about watching sausage being made. It left me with more negatives than positives.

But – I have many many friends who are strong labor organizers, members and/or advocates of all things that I also advocate for and so I stand by unions.

Yet we have now come to a time where too many are not only demonizing unions, they are calling for the turning back of all that unions and the labor movement have accomplished over time.

So let’s do the imagining of this as the last Labor Day in the USA.

Minimum wages? Gone! You get paid what your boss or business owner feels like paying you. Don’t like it? Go find another job!

40-hour workweek with time and a half for over time? HA! You work as long as your boss wants you to at your now-less-than-minimum-wages. For all the hours you work.

Vacation time or sick leave? Nope! Get sick? Don’t get paid. Vacation? You lazy bum – you are fired!

Safe conditions at work? You wuss. You’ll do as we say – and stop asking for safety materials or safe conditions. Man up or be fired!

Got hurt at work? Sorry but you just lost your job since you had to take time off.

Insurance? Another wussy idea! Don’t get sick or hurt and you will be fine. Family has medical issues? Work more hours or send your kids out to get a job. We’ve eliminated all child labor laws and changed the laws regarding schooling too. They can go to work for as many hours as they can – at a lower wage than you make.

Pensions? Retirement funds? We aren’t gift horses. Our shareholders need that money more than you do. Save up for your own retirement or better yet – work until you die!

Social Security? We’re working on eliminating that as well. Can’t have all you workers draining our finances because you aren’t capable of saving on your salary. Find a way to cut your own expenses or get 2nd and 3rd jobs! Stop being so lazy!

Unimaginable? Not really.
Stoppable? Only if we elect to office those who are progressive and people-oriented.

The choices are ours – you get what you vote for!

Comments? Thank you!

Have a great Labor Day Weekend

PS – I'd normally put this on my political blog but postings there won't save 🙂

Do you make resolutions? Do they work for you? Or if not - what do you do - if anything? Please comment below and thank you for reading.  

  • I had a dislike for unions, when I was a member of one. However, my dislike for dictatorial corporate control of workers exceeds it. On the balance, I’d take the union. Herr Walker demonstrates what happens when unions are crippled or eliminated. On the whole: Better for workers.

    • Thank you for your comment. I worked for one and quit when they screwed me over my salary [among other issues!] But yes, like you, I’d still take unions over corporations – and people over profits!  Lynn

  • Kind of puts things into perspective. You made some great points, Lynn. I’m sure you are aware of this, some of Europeans have much more labor bonuses than we do. No complaining here. Have a great Labor Day weekend & definitely not take it for granted!

    • Thank you for your kind words and adding your comment. Yes, I think most Europeans get more time off, better family leave and medical care. We bow to the corporate bottom line and that means people don’t count as much as profits 🙁

      I plan to enjoy the weekend as summer weather has returned.
      Lynn

  • Your post reminds me of Upton Sinclair’s “The Jungle.” It’s a good read for everyone – even those of us who don’t like Unions. 😉

    • The Jungle, was exactly what was running through my mind, too! 

      Also, being a teacher and living in Wisconsin, it also feels like the predictions of what’s to come. 
      Sure thankful for laws that protect these ‘rights’ & those who fought to bring these laws to fruition against big businesses with deep pockets. 

      • Thanks Lisa – Wisconsin was on my mind when I started commenting on the FB page. Then I needed to say a lot more :-). I understand a lot of WI teachers have chosen to retire rather than lose money working and that’s scary too!

        Keep up the fight in WI – we all have your backs.

        Lynn

        • Thanks for having our backs! It’s a double edged sword. Parents aren’t willing to step up and fight for their children’s best interest in the classroom & now teachers are no longer allowed to do so either. I have stepped away from teaching to raise my 4 children, but many of my colleagues have just sucked up working an extra 45 minutes a day with no pay compensation what so ever as part of the new ‘rules.’ At the same time, this will really have teachers on top their game and cut many loop holes that bad teachers use to hang on to their jobs. At the same time, many really really good teachers will go teach in the private sector because the benefits are no longer worth it in the Public School system. Another caveat is that we have A LOT of new teachers that are now able to get jobs in education because of all of the openings. Do I like it? No. But I can’t do much about it at this point except vote in a recall and this little fiasco isn’t the only crap our governor has pulled. Hoping he will be exiting sooner than later! 

          • We have so many low-information voters who vote against their own best interests that it astounds me. Out here I am an officer of our county dem party and we actively solicited $ for Wisconsin and will do again when needed. the coke-brothers have to be stopped from buying more states.

            Lynn

    •  Thank you for the comment and the comparison!. I’ve been authoring [still private :-)] a lot of “what ifs” – and my mind suddenly added this one. Now I’ll get back to the others.

      PS – Unions are good for some members but not so good to their own employees 🙂

      Lynn

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