{"id":1132,"date":"2012-07-01T14:04:14","date_gmt":"2012-07-01T21:04:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.graywolfproductions.com\/parenting201\/?p=1132"},"modified":"2012-07-01T14:04:14","modified_gmt":"2012-07-01T21:04:14","slug":"are-you-a-competitive-parent-part-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.graywolfproductions.com\/parenting201\/are-you-a-competitive-parent-part-1","title":{"rendered":"Are You A Competitive Parent? Part 1"},"content":{"rendered":"

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In the USA there are many parents who have gotten into a behavior that I call “competitive parenting.” <\/b><\/span><\/span><\/h1>\n

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This competing has been around for a while – but now seems to have gotten worse – and it has spread into many more areas of a child’s development. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Even into areas over which a parent has little control!<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

We hear of parents signing up their not-yet-born children for the “best” nursery schools so as to ensure future entrance to colleges such as Harvard or Yale.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

What a burden on that child!<\/i><\/b> What if that child does not want to go to those schools – or heaven forbid – does not want to go to college at all? Or is not accepted?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

We have parents pressuring children to get “good” grades as early as nursery school and kindergarten. I knew of a child who got ulcers in the 1st grade because she “only” got an A- or B+ on some assignments and her parents were making her study more so as to raise that to a solid A [no minus marks or B’s allowed in that family.]<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Somehow making sure your child is seen as better than and faster than “those other children” either makes you seem like a better parent or proves your child is genius [and of course that will reflect back on you the genius parent.]<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Please stop it! <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Kids have enough to do just to develop<\/b>…they don’t need added pressure from parents trying to prove something to the world.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Next – competition around weaning and toilet training…..<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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Thoughts? Comments? Thank you.<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n

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